The moment you see those 2 lines on i-sure,life turns around. Happiness and best wishes pour in from all directions and so does advice. Suddenly all old age “experienced” acquaintances turn into a dietitian, yoga instructor, life trainer, psychologist and what not. You are advised to eat everything from green vegetables, fibrous fruits to those tonnes of ghee dripping laddoos. Sometimes I used to wonder if suddenly I have developed a black hole in my belly which could absorb anything and everything.

Even though our old school suggests that ghee is good during pregnancy, I was never convinced with it. I took not more than 3 tsp of ghee a day and nevertheless I had a healthy baby of 3.5 kgs.

There is an epic long to-do list and an even longer one with things you are not supposed to do. The routine Rx is to listen to pious songs, read religious scripts, have happy thoughts, go out for walk, pranayam and yoga and, to manage the household, is but obvious. Pheww!!! On the contrary, the mother in me always longed for some sleep..it was a luxury for me. So whatever time I could pull out after my household work and bare minimum yoga/walk/pranayam (I would never do all 3 in a day! :P), I would sleep. Sleep for 2-3 hours in daytime. That helped me maintain my calm and health throughout.

Post pregnancy while most of us are trying to fight the postpartum depression, your closest family and that bunch of distant aunts, who suddenly took an overnight incarnation, are busy advising you about the upbringing of your baby with a patent anecdote that starts with- “ajkal ki ladkiya toh bus……” and “Humare zamane mein toh…..” but my personal experience says that no one knows it better than a mom. Only a mom knows why her kid is cranky, the right set of clothes to keep him warm or cool. What would be the right time for his feed, sleep, studies, recreation..anything and everything.

We should not forget that each kid is different and mothers instincts are the most sensitive to their kids signals. We should try to feel it, believe in it and live it each and every moment.

While it is important to read and hear peoples experiences and be aware, it is also important to filter out what suits your situation. Nobody can walk in your shoes better than you do. In short, listen carefully to a Zillion moms but do what the “MOM” inside tells you to.

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